When a few friends and I were just discussing a possibility of plans of watch a movie after school during the school day on Monday, we didn't know that it would go this far.
On Monday, we were talking about the possibility of the plans, it was only among three friends and I.
When we touched on the topic on Tuesday in math class, another person in our social group jumped in and said he couldn't wait for it.
The social group I'm apart of is pretty spread out, it's almost like there's one in each class and this would be my math and band social group.
I didn't know what to think of another friend jumping in on the plans, so we left it until today.
While finalizing the plans today, the friend who sort of invited himself said he was really excited, and I didn't have a problem with it.
However, one of my friends in the original planning group approached me and told me that he's iffy about the guy that invited himself because sometimes he makes him feel uncomfortable.
To be honest, I can understand where he's coming from because this guy doesn't always know when it's okay to continue on a joke and when you have to stop it there.
In other words, he doesn't always know where to draw the line.
It can make people feel uncomfortable, but that's him and maybe he'll learn later in time where to draw the line, and it's alright if that will take him a bit more time.
At this rate, I was torn.
Do I invite the friend who seemed like he really wanted to come or do I accommodate to the friend who feels uncomfortable at times around this person.
Then I realized something.
Not even 6 months ago, I was the kid who wanted to be invited to social events but wasn't always invited by the people I called my friends.
I know the feeling of thinking your friends hate you, I know the feeling of thinking you're alone and I know that it's one of the worst things to hear plans be made in front of you and you're not a part of them.
I talked to my friend that was a part d the original plan and explained to him my point of view and he agreed and saw where I was coming from.
He said that he could manage for a night, so that's what we did.
We all went to my house after school, played a few video games while waiting for one friend from the original plan and another last minute joiner because they were both at work and then we watched a movie.
In the end, I learnt that in high school, your social group will be very diverse and you will have many friends in all of your different classes.
It's okay to want to make plans with just a few of them, however if you are to make them, do them in private.
It's one of the worst feelings to hear some of your class friends make plans and not include you, but it also hurts to hear "I guess you can come too."
If you want a small group, make plans in private and if another wants to join, there's no reason nor need (unless it's something like your parents put a strict limit on number of friends that can be at the house) to deny them of the chance to be with friends.
Sometimes the only thing someone needs is a friend. Don't deny them of that.
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