"Interest At First Sight"

I'm a big quote fanatic. I love reading quotes, breaking them down, learning about who wrote them and why they said it. 

I think it's the fact that the meaning of a quote could mean one thing to me and something completely different to someone else. It inspires people in their own personal way.

A quote that everyone seems to know is "It was like love at first sight."

Now people usually tend to think of people or book/movie characters when they hear the quote. Who doesn't love the idea of being able to look at someone in the eyes from across the room and just knowing that they're the one? 

That would be incredibly special.

For me though, that quote is more for items. Whether I'm shopping, listening to music, reading a book, I can fall in love instantly.

I just personally don't think it's fair to say the same about a person.

How do you fall in love with someone by a quick glance of the eye and know you want to spend the rest of your life with that one person? 

Is that not that shallow? 

You're technically not falling in love/fell in love with a person, you're falling in love/fell in love with their looks. A whole person is so much more than just looks. What if you think you had a "It was love at first sight," moment but the other person is the complete opposite as you and you know that it could never work out after the first date? 

That's why I think that the quote should be "Interest at first sight." 

I am one of those people that say personality is more important than looks because if I had the choice of marrying someone that loves all the same things I do and we always have fun together but he looks like an average guy or marrying a supermodel that I have nothing in common with and it always feels awkward, I would chose the person who looks like an average guy. 

I don't want to say looks aren't important, because in a way they are. 

They spark interest in you to talk to someone. Everyone has their preferences related to looks whether it's hair or eye colour to size or height of the person, but no one should be made fun of for their looks. It's not something you can change on command and it's awful that people are still making them feel bad for how they look and making them feel worthless about themselves. 

That's why I also think that it's important not to change your looks for anyone but yourself because someone will take interest in you.

Now if you are a believer that two people can fall in love at first sight, then that's awesome.

This is just my opinion on the matter, so please, I beg of you, do not feel as though you have to change your opinion of the quote. If I have influenced you and you understand what I'm saying, then so be it. I would just hate it if one of you changed your minds completely even though the reason as to why you fell in love with the quote and remember it is different from mine.

Everyone has different interpretations on different subjects. This just happens to be mine on a specific quote.


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Being Body Positive

A study by the Dove Self-Esteem Project (DSEP) reveals that 47% of teen girls between the ages of 11 to 14 refuse to take part in activities that will show off their body in any way, such as swimming or performing in front of the school (drama class).

Almost half of the girls that took part of this study have low self esteem. The worst part is that these girls are in the age range of 11 to 14 years old. That's far to young to be worrying about body image, yet sadly, this is what society has come to.

I will admit that I've struggled with self esteem for awhile now. I'll share a little bit about my story and then say how I'm starting to build it back up.

As many others could relate to, I struggle to love certain body parts. I've never loved my stomach, my back or my shoulders. I was never confident about my weight.

When I started going to the gym, I was always uncomfortable because you see all these people walking past you, clearly haven been working out for years. You'd see anything from slim bodies to strong muscles, and yes, I was envious of others.

After a summer of the gym and swim training, I started to notice little changes about my body.

I was slightly slimmer, stronger arm and leg muscles, and so on. Although I was happy with my change...it's almost as if it wasn't enough.

I can't remember where I saw or heard these words, but I'd love to share them. Just know that they're not mine.

In the end, it doesn't matter what your body was like. We all have the same goal: to live life to the fullest and die with no regrets. When we're gone, we aren't remembered by what our bodies looked like, but we're remembered by the things we do and the people we reached out to.

Those words really helped me get through my low self-esteem and is currently still inspiring me everyday.

When you stand in front of the mirror and you start to think about all the things you want, reverse that. 

Start off by saying one thing you love about yourself, whether its body or personality, and build yourself up. Start with one, say another, and another, and another.

If your makeup looks nice on a day, say it to yourself! 
If your hair is how you want it to be, say it!
If your outfit is the nicest thing you'e ever seen, say it!
If you like your eyes, shout it out!
If you love your legs, make sure others know!

It's okay to not be 100% happy with your body right now, but you can build yourself up to that point.

Saying that you like something about yourself, you might not want to come across as vain, but why not? You're loving your body, the only one you will ever get, and I don't think that's a bad thing.

If there is a certain thing you don't like about yourself, there's always a solution. You don't have to think that it's horrible, you can find a solution! Find clothes that flatter your figure, you can dye your hair, you can use nail polish if you don't like your nails, do whatever will make you, and only you happy. Just remember that you don't have to go through drastic measures. 

Now let's say this together:

It's okay to have flaws. I will come to love myself. It might not be soon, but it will happen.

I hope this might of have an impact on you guys as it did for me when I heard those words from before.


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