A lot of the time, people tend to click together in the sense that they fit together.
Friends click together, especially best friends.
Usually the story behind best friends is that they've known each other for years, they went to school together, their parents knew each other before they were born, things like that. They're friendship is set at an early time of life.
Other times, it happens later in life and over a short amount of time.
This amount of time can be anything from a few days to a few weeks. I find that with the older you get, the more unintentional best friends you have; meaning that you become best friends with them because in a short amount of time, they become or go-to person to communicate with.
At my old school, my best friend and I had known each other for ages, we've been best friends since grade two and we haven't looked back since.
Once again at my old school but with a different group of friends, I clicked with them at first, but then we just sort of didn't click together any more.
Arriving at my new school this year, I wasn't sure what was going to happen.
I was hoping to make friends on my first day of school, but that didn't really happen for me.
With almost a full month of school done, I've defiantly made a few friends.
I have the same group of people that I have all my classes with that are good friends of mine, I have friends that I only have a few classes with, but that's okay.
I have many new friends now, and although I really enjoy being with them all and that I think they're great, I don't know if we've really clicked yet.
I will talk to them my whole school day, but I still feel as though I'm holding myself back when I'm with them.
However, I don't feel this way towards everyone.
There's one guy in particular at my new school that I really do feel a click with.
With only one month of school completed, I think that I could call him my best friend there because I can easily talk him about everything and I don't feel nervous around him at all.
I really believe that I've had one of my first moment a where I instantly clicked with someone that I barely knew to begin with.
It's a bit odd seeing as there's still so much for me to learn about him and vice versa, but we both enjoy each other's company.
Clicking with someone you just meant is such a great thing because it gives you a go-to friend when you feel alone or you don't know where to go in a new environment.
In all honesty, feeling as though I have a clicked with someone I just met is a great feeling. Because of this click, I have someone to hang out with outside of school and I have someone I'm not scared to ask for help.
I've never felt as though I have a connection with someone that I met as soon as I did with this guy, but I have one with him.
I hope that this is something that everyone will experience at least once in their life.
It can take years to build up a high level of trust with a previous friend, but to have that same level of trust within someone that you just met is almost a relieving feeling.
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Wednesday, 30 September 2015
Sunday, 2 August 2015
Compliments At The Beach & Understanding Friends
I met up with some friends that I only see once a or twice a year and it was nice to be able to see them again.
My parents and I drive down to their summer cottage, and from there we walked down to the beach.
I walked down to the beach with my two friends alone, our parents were a few minutes behind us, and we picked out a spot to set up at.
My friends kind of dropped their stuff in a spot before running in to go swim because the water was really nice, but I decided to sit back for a bit, sunscreen up and enjoy the sun.
I was just setting my bad down, moving a few things over so things weren't thrown all over our little spot in the beach and getting stuff out of my bag when this teen/early 20's girl came over to me.
At first, I thought "Oh no, we did something wrong. Maybe we're too close to where she and her boyfriend are set up, maybe we disturbed them, I don't know, I just hope everything's okay."
She came up to me and said "Hi, I just want to say that I think you're really pretty."
I only had the time to muster up a thank you before she went back to where she was set up with her boyfriend.
I honestly think that that was the first time ever that someone actually came up to me to say that they think that I'm pretty.
It definitely made me feel good, but I also felt a little more confident after that. It was really sweet of her to come up and say that to me.
Having a few jobs, I see a lot of people and I'm constantly meeting new people. A lot of these people are are pretty, nice, have a nice shirt or anything along those lines, but I would never have the courage to go up to someone and tell them that I like their shirt or that I think they're pretty.
I want to change that about me.
I'm working tomorrow and if I see someone wearing a nice shirt or someone who I find pretty, I want to tell them.
It's sweet when your friends compliment you, but there's something different about when it's someone you don't know who compliments you.
It feels more genuine in that way.
Either way, I'm going to try and take a step out of my comfort zone for a positive reason.
Shortly following that, our parents met up with us and we spent the day swimming, relaxing on the beach and just catching up with each other.
After that, we headed back up to their cottage, watched a baseball game on the small TV and had supper.
When we finished supper, my friends wanted me to go on the paddleboat with them. I told them that I would be fine sitting on the shore and watching them, plus I had to leave soon, but they insisted that I go out with them.
They didn't know that I deal with anxiety though.
I'm a very good swimmer; I swam for many years of my life and I'm even a swim teacher now! I'm really comfortable around the water, it's just that this was a black bottom lake meaning that I couldn't see the bottom.
I didn't want to disappoint them so I got in the boat and we started to go out.
I felt really uncomfortable and anxious. The boat was so close to the water and I couldn't see the bottom of the lake and it freaked me out. I started to feel as though I was going to be sick and my breathing changed a little bit.
One of my friends noticed and told the other one to head back in to shore. They asked me what was wrong but I didn't feel as though I could answer without being sick or crying a bit.
When we got to shore, they didn't pressure me into telling them anything and I was thankful for that.
I did tell them, though, because I felt like they deserved to know. I've been friends with them for years and I knew that I could trust them.
Either way, no matter what the scenario is, you should never feel pressured into doing something. Especially when your friends are involved.
If they insist you do something, say that you don't want to do it with a little more authority in your voice and maybe they'll understand.
If they don't forget it. If you don't feel safe or comfortable, do whatever it takes to make you feel so. Real friends shouldn't put you in that position.
If you're like me and afraid to disappoint your friends, remember to not disappoint yourself above all.
It was really nice to spend the day with them, like I mentioned I don't see them often and I really enjoyed the day except for that little paddleboat incident.
However, even with that, I still had a nice day.
One More Girl, no longer online
My parents and I drive down to their summer cottage, and from there we walked down to the beach.
I walked down to the beach with my two friends alone, our parents were a few minutes behind us, and we picked out a spot to set up at.
My friends kind of dropped their stuff in a spot before running in to go swim because the water was really nice, but I decided to sit back for a bit, sunscreen up and enjoy the sun.
I was just setting my bad down, moving a few things over so things weren't thrown all over our little spot in the beach and getting stuff out of my bag when this teen/early 20's girl came over to me.
At first, I thought "Oh no, we did something wrong. Maybe we're too close to where she and her boyfriend are set up, maybe we disturbed them, I don't know, I just hope everything's okay."
She came up to me and said "Hi, I just want to say that I think you're really pretty."
I only had the time to muster up a thank you before she went back to where she was set up with her boyfriend.
I honestly think that that was the first time ever that someone actually came up to me to say that they think that I'm pretty.
It definitely made me feel good, but I also felt a little more confident after that. It was really sweet of her to come up and say that to me.
Having a few jobs, I see a lot of people and I'm constantly meeting new people. A lot of these people are are pretty, nice, have a nice shirt or anything along those lines, but I would never have the courage to go up to someone and tell them that I like their shirt or that I think they're pretty.
I want to change that about me.
I'm working tomorrow and if I see someone wearing a nice shirt or someone who I find pretty, I want to tell them.
It's sweet when your friends compliment you, but there's something different about when it's someone you don't know who compliments you.
It feels more genuine in that way.
Either way, I'm going to try and take a step out of my comfort zone for a positive reason.
Shortly following that, our parents met up with us and we spent the day swimming, relaxing on the beach and just catching up with each other.
After that, we headed back up to their cottage, watched a baseball game on the small TV and had supper.
When we finished supper, my friends wanted me to go on the paddleboat with them. I told them that I would be fine sitting on the shore and watching them, plus I had to leave soon, but they insisted that I go out with them.
They didn't know that I deal with anxiety though.
I'm a very good swimmer; I swam for many years of my life and I'm even a swim teacher now! I'm really comfortable around the water, it's just that this was a black bottom lake meaning that I couldn't see the bottom.
I didn't want to disappoint them so I got in the boat and we started to go out.
I felt really uncomfortable and anxious. The boat was so close to the water and I couldn't see the bottom of the lake and it freaked me out. I started to feel as though I was going to be sick and my breathing changed a little bit.
One of my friends noticed and told the other one to head back in to shore. They asked me what was wrong but I didn't feel as though I could answer without being sick or crying a bit.
When we got to shore, they didn't pressure me into telling them anything and I was thankful for that.
I did tell them, though, because I felt like they deserved to know. I've been friends with them for years and I knew that I could trust them.
Either way, no matter what the scenario is, you should never feel pressured into doing something. Especially when your friends are involved.
If they insist you do something, say that you don't want to do it with a little more authority in your voice and maybe they'll understand.
If they don't forget it. If you don't feel safe or comfortable, do whatever it takes to make you feel so. Real friends shouldn't put you in that position.
If you're like me and afraid to disappoint your friends, remember to not disappoint yourself above all.
It was really nice to spend the day with them, like I mentioned I don't see them often and I really enjoyed the day except for that little paddleboat incident.
However, even with that, I still had a nice day.
One More Girl, no longer online
Wednesday, 21 January 2015
Impressing People
As humans, we feel the need to impress people, to make them love us, to be hated by no one, and to leave a legacy of some sort on this earth for years after we're gone.
Why do we all crave this feeling? Why can no one be happy with who they truly are anymore?
We should not be worrying about impressing people, because honestly, the people that are worth impressing deserve to know the true you. As the old saying goes, its better to be loved for who you are then to be loved for someone you're not. We have to stop comparing ourselves to others to be more "impressive".
If you're trying to impress someone with the intentions of a good friendship or dating them, there's no need to feel like someone you're not to be able to get them to like you back. The right person will come along for the right role, someday.
These days, I feel as though at school, it's a competition for who has the most likes on, Instagram, who has the most followers on Twitter, the most friends on Facebook. Why does it seem like people are competing over stuff like this?
In the long run, it's almost as if they picture life as a race, as in who's the most "loved" by people over social media.
It's almost as if everyone is in a drawing competition, and everyone is desperate to finish first so that they can say "Look at me! I'm done! I did it!" The truth is, you don't get happiness from finishing first, you get it while drawing something your proud of.
We have to let go of the insane thought about proving to everyone else that we're better in some aspect, and then we could be free to accomplish the dreams we never go the chance to imagine because we were so busy trying to impress others for no reason.
If we break down all the situations that we weren't ourselves because we wanted to impress the people around us that were in our lives for only a certain amount of time, and not for the long run, I can honestly say that I feel like I've wasted a lot of time.
I'm going to change that about my life, and if some of you also decide to do the same, feel free to comment and say how you're going to do so, and we can do this together.
No more impressing people, it's finally time to be me. If people don't like it, to bad. I'll know that hey aren't meant to be a permanent figure in my life.
That's also kind of why I like posting on my blog. I find that because it's anonymous, you know that there's truth to what I'm saying, I'm not making up scenarios in my head because this is the only place I can be myself. I'm not worrying about writing to impress you guys, I'm just writing about something that happened in my life and could be relatable or helpful to someone else.
Let the world see you as who you are. Stand tall, be proud.
One More Girl, no longer online
Why do we all crave this feeling? Why can no one be happy with who they truly are anymore?
We should not be worrying about impressing people, because honestly, the people that are worth impressing deserve to know the true you. As the old saying goes, its better to be loved for who you are then to be loved for someone you're not. We have to stop comparing ourselves to others to be more "impressive".
If you're trying to impress someone with the intentions of a good friendship or dating them, there's no need to feel like someone you're not to be able to get them to like you back. The right person will come along for the right role, someday.
These days, I feel as though at school, it's a competition for who has the most likes on, Instagram, who has the most followers on Twitter, the most friends on Facebook. Why does it seem like people are competing over stuff like this?
In the long run, it's almost as if they picture life as a race, as in who's the most "loved" by people over social media.
It's almost as if everyone is in a drawing competition, and everyone is desperate to finish first so that they can say "Look at me! I'm done! I did it!" The truth is, you don't get happiness from finishing first, you get it while drawing something your proud of.
We have to let go of the insane thought about proving to everyone else that we're better in some aspect, and then we could be free to accomplish the dreams we never go the chance to imagine because we were so busy trying to impress others for no reason.
If we break down all the situations that we weren't ourselves because we wanted to impress the people around us that were in our lives for only a certain amount of time, and not for the long run, I can honestly say that I feel like I've wasted a lot of time.
I'm going to change that about my life, and if some of you also decide to do the same, feel free to comment and say how you're going to do so, and we can do this together.
No more impressing people, it's finally time to be me. If people don't like it, to bad. I'll know that hey aren't meant to be a permanent figure in my life.
That's also kind of why I like posting on my blog. I find that because it's anonymous, you know that there's truth to what I'm saying, I'm not making up scenarios in my head because this is the only place I can be myself. I'm not worrying about writing to impress you guys, I'm just writing about something that happened in my life and could be relatable or helpful to someone else.
Let the world see you as who you are. Stand tall, be proud.
One More Girl, no longer online
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